There is no point trying to direct a child if they are in the height of emotions. Once you have connected then you can direct
Connect then direct!
Remember high emotional activity + stress block activity of the prefrontal cortex - where all the learning, reasoning, conscious choice happen.
When we connect FIRST with our child's emotion - the experience driving the behavior - it help their amygdala (the brain system associated with stress and big feelings) chill out.
Connecting first to the emotion shifts their brain and mind to be in a way better position to actually LEARN from the experience. Remember: Your goal is to teach them how to deal with a situation better next time, so calming the chaos and activating their prefrontal cortex is key!
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